Lunch with the Family: A Blessing or a Nightmare?

When was the last time you had lunch with your family? Yes! Lunch, not dinner! Nowadays, more and more people have their lunch in their working place alone or with their colleagues instead of lunching with their family members. If they have strong family bonds they might have a dinner time all together, but generally, it seems that the old structure of a “traditional” family is gone for good.

Lunch could be the ideal time for a family to be united and discuss all the daily changes that happen in each member’s life. It ‘s the time that kids have just returned from school. When there is a family hour for lunch, they don’t have to wait so many hours – sometimes days – to share with their parents their news. Why is this important? Because as you might have noticed, people generally when they postpone to say what they think, they usually don’t say it at all or if they do so, it ‘s much later. When too many feelings have been accumulated for a long time, one day, most people just can’t help it anymore and they explode towards everyone, unleashing all these suppressed emotions, without a second thought.

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Lunch gives us the opportunity to deal together, as a family, any problems that have appeared in the morning for each member. The more experiences we share, the more we feel like a real family. Kids don’t hesitate to share their school news and whatever else they may think and the couple – when there is one – can spend some beautiful time together, enjoying the family they have created.

However, this is not always true for all the families, as this world is far from the ideal. If a family meets for lunch and everyone instead of communicating and listening the others remains more focused on himself, then that lunch becomes an unpleasant one, especially for children. The adults can play a crucial role in creating the right atmosphere for lunch. When children feel that there is love in the way their parents talk to each other, that there is love in the way the food was made for them and that they are really welcomed and connected with the other members of the family, they are much less prone to develop eating disorders in the future.

So, lunch can be either a blessing, uniting the family with tighter emotional bonds or it can be a nightmare, when the family’s members instead of opening themselves to the others prefer staying quiet and focused to themselves, just letting this valuable family time to pass by.

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Happiness For a Lifetime?

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Indeed, it is strange how much every single of us tries to be happy in his life, yet very often happiness seems to be elusive. We all use the word “happiness” easily, but what is also easily understood is that each of us doesn’t mean the same thing.

For me, happiness is a personal achievement, through a long journey filled with unexpected obstacles. Yes, we may be temporarily “happy” with all the pleasant surprises and situations in our daily life. We can feel “happy” with our partner, family, friends etc. But being REALLY happy is much more than that.

Happiness is not caused by certain situations we experience. It is rather a permanent, underlying feeling, a feeling that comes as an assurance that we have been walking the right path for us in our lives. I would say, it is a sign that despite all the difficulties we may face, we haven’t lost our purpose of our existence and we are in alignment with our inner voice. That is actually an achievement that very few accomplish throughout life.

The reason for the latter is that since our childhood, we learn that the best way for achieving happiness is to do everything else but listening to ourselves. We learn how to please others and accepting mostly what is “normal” and “common” socially. This is unavoidable to a certain extent, but when someone starts to lose his real purpose in life because he is disconnected from his truth, nothing else matters, even if he is the most successful person in the world.

Pleasure is a different concept from happiness – and happiness results only from within. Many people have the imperative need to be always surrounded by people who are happy to feel happy too. Others only try to satisfy someone else to feel satisfied themselves too, because they have forgotten that happiness is a personal achievement. Have you ever noticed parents who cling on their children and drain them emotionally? In my opinion, this is a sign that these parents have forgotten how to be happy alone, without their children. They are happy only through them.

Happiness may be the result of a lot of pain and disappointments. Nonetheless, it ‘s the natural condition of human. Nowadays, most people instead of being happy, they are depressed. Why? Because they have missed a piece of their life purpose puzzle. They have missed a vital piece that would lead them to their fulfillment and therefore to their happiness. At some point, they got completely lost. This is why in many cases, psychologists can’t be a great help. The missing piece can be found again only by the person who lost it. No one else can find it for him.

So, it is important to have a perspective in life. It is easy to get lost if you get distracted by what other people do to be happy. But happiness comes from awareness of your inner needs and from the fact that you are not suppressing your inner voice, irrespectively of the obstacles you may have to overcome during your journey. Life is not easy, but it is rewarding. We can all find happiness. This is why, we should all try to live life to the fullest.

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