Music therapy

These last days, I’ve been quite busy and I didn’t have enough time to post my thoughts here, but now… here I am! Recently, I have started exploring a new wonderful field that I wasn’t very well aware of….the field of music therapy. Music therapy, which is the healing through music, and more specifically the healing through our interaction with the kind of music we like, is a very interesting and promising approach to a more holistic way of therapy.

The rhythm and the melody of music are some excellent tools that can be used very successfully for therapeutic reasons. Music therapy, above all, helps us realize and reconnect with our deepest emotions and thus understand many of these hidden “why’s” of our actions. One of the exercises of the course I attend was to find pieces of music that have a relaxing effect to us and to start become more focused on the sounds that exist around us. A simple question such as “What can you hear right now?” for many people might seems to be meaningless.

However, I think it’s extremely important to realize what sounds exist in our every day life. Sometimes, some sounds can literally exhaust us while others can rejuvenate us. When we are able to evaluate how we feel from the sounds that we are surrounded with, we can make crucial decisions that affect the quality of our life. Knowing whether we are in an environment with sounds that bring us calmness or stress is of vital importance for our general well-being.

What’s your thoughts on that? For example, is this music relaxing for you or does it provoke other emotions, like sadness…maybe happiness?…

PS. Part 2 of Writing and dancing is coming next week. 🙂

IS WRITING LIKE DANCING? part 1

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Undoubtedly, our way of writing reflects our way of thinking. Being able to communicate effectively through writing, regardless of whether we are professional writers or not, is crucial for our self-development.

Since reality, according to psychological studies, is just the subjective understanding of all the factors that create our environment, it is vital to find all those bridges of communication that will allow us to share our perceptions of reality with each other.

Writing can bridge the gap of communication among people, but most of all, it can help us become more aware of our thoughts and feelings. How many times, for example, haven’t we all written down our emotions or thoughts in a diary, trying to open up our heart and to analyze a situation that we have been involved in?

Sometimes, writing can become a quite daunting process, as it brings to the surface feelings and thoughts we didn’t know that we have. Nonetheless, it is also a rewarding experience, as it helps you reconnect with yourself and recognize your inner voice better.

We could claim that in some ways writing is like dancing. You need to know the right words, like the right steps in dancing. However, that’s never enough. On the contrary, this is only the first stage, a first glimpse on what writing or dancing promise to give you in the future if you continue your efforts.

One of the most precious moments in someone’s life is when he feels that he can harvest the fruits of his labor. It’s the exact moment when a dancer transforms into an ethereal existence while dancing the Swan Lake. It’s the exact moment when a writer becomes master of words and creates a new reality, which will then share with his readers. This is when readers and writer start to share a secret world – their common reality.

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Lunch with the Family: A Blessing or a Nightmare?

When was the last time you had lunch with your family? Yes! Lunch, not dinner! Nowadays, more and more people have their lunch in their working place alone or with their colleagues instead of lunching with their family members. If they have strong family bonds they might have a dinner time all together, but generally, it seems that the old structure of a “traditional” family is gone for good.

Lunch could be the ideal time for a family to be united and discuss all the daily changes that happen in each member’s life. It ‘s the time that kids have just returned from school. When there is a family hour for lunch, they don’t have to wait so many hours – sometimes days – to share with their parents their news. Why is this important? Because as you might have noticed, people generally when they postpone to say what they think, they usually don’t say it at all or if they do so, it ‘s much later. When too many feelings have been accumulated for a long time, one day, most people just can’t help it anymore and they explode towards everyone, unleashing all these suppressed emotions, without a second thought.

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Lunch gives us the opportunity to deal together, as a family, any problems that have appeared in the morning for each member. The more experiences we share, the more we feel like a real family. Kids don’t hesitate to share their school news and whatever else they may think and the couple – when there is one – can spend some beautiful time together, enjoying the family they have created.

However, this is not always true for all the families, as this world is far from the ideal. If a family meets for lunch and everyone instead of communicating and listening the others remains more focused on himself, then that lunch becomes an unpleasant one, especially for children. The adults can play a crucial role in creating the right atmosphere for lunch. When children feel that there is love in the way their parents talk to each other, that there is love in the way the food was made for them and that they are really welcomed and connected with the other members of the family, they are much less prone to develop eating disorders in the future.

So, lunch can be either a blessing, uniting the family with tighter emotional bonds or it can be a nightmare, when the family’s members instead of opening themselves to the others prefer staying quiet and focused to themselves, just letting this valuable family time to pass by.

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