When was the last time you had lunch with your family? Yes! Lunch, not dinner! Nowadays, more and more people have their lunch in their working place alone or with their colleagues instead of lunching with their family members. If they have strong family bonds they might have a dinner time all together, but generally, it seems that the old structure of a “traditional” family is gone for good.
Lunch could be the ideal time for a family to be united and discuss all the daily changes that happen in each member’s life. It ‘s the time that kids have just returned from school. When there is a family hour for lunch, they don’t have to wait so many hours – sometimes days – to share with their parents their news. Why is this important? Because as you might have noticed, people generally when they postpone to say what they think, they usually don’t say it at all or if they do so, it ‘s much later. When too many feelings have been accumulated for a long time, one day, most people just can’t help it anymore and they explode towards everyone, unleashing all these suppressed emotions, without a second thought.
Lunch gives us the opportunity to deal together, as a family, any problems that have appeared in the morning for each member. The more experiences we share, the more we feel like a real family. Kids don’t hesitate to share their school news and whatever else they may think and the couple – when there is one – can spend some beautiful time together, enjoying the family they have created.
However, this is not always true for all the families, as this world is far from the ideal. If a family meets for lunch and everyone instead of communicating and listening the others remains more focused on himself, then that lunch becomes an unpleasant one, especially for children. The adults can play a crucial role in creating the right atmosphere for lunch. When children feel that there is love in the way their parents talk to each other, that there is love in the way the food was made for them and that they are really welcomed and connected with the other members of the family, they are much less prone to develop eating disorders in the future.
So, lunch can be either a blessing, uniting the family with tighter emotional bonds or it can be a nightmare, when the family’s members instead of opening themselves to the others prefer staying quiet and focused to themselves, just letting this valuable family time to pass by.
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